Forgiveness is Hard Work

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Forgiveness is Letting Go

“Truly successful people in life are givers and forgivers.” – Zig Ziglar

Forgiving is giving up my right to feel angry, hurt, or offended and extending grace to the offender.  To give is to bless.  To forgive is to release.

How do you know if you NEED to forgive someone?  If, when you think about them, the first thoughts you have are negative thoughts or angry thoughts or memories of how they wronged you or hurt you then you probably haven’t really forgiven them.  How do you know you HAVE forgiven?  You think about those things less and less.  To forgive and totally forget is only possible for God.  The human mind cannot totally forget, but we can choose not to dwell on it.  When the thoughts do come, we make the choice to replace them.  When true forgiveness has taken place that becomes easier and easier.

What Forgiveness is Not

Here’s a couple of thoughts that might help us with forgiveness.

  • Forgiveness is not a response to an apology. Forgiveness can happen without the other person even being aware of your choice. Although, when possible and appropriate it is good for them to know.
  • Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. Forgiveness is always possible because it is totally dependent on our choice, but reconciliation is not always possible when the other party does not want reconciliation.
  • Forgiveness is not saying what was done to us was okay. We’re not letting anyone off the hook for wrong or maybe even evil actions. Jesus did not say our sin was okay when he forgave us. He simply released us from the power of sin.

Next Steps

Join me in ask “Who do I need to forgive today?”  That’s a giant step toward success in life.  Now, you can go do the other things like hard work, being creative and innovative, taking calculated risks, dreaming big, etc.  But if you do all these and do not forgive you will never achieve true success.

PRAYER: Lord Jesus, show me how you want me to forgive today.  I want true success in life not the superficial success that just things and status bring, but the true success that living to give and forgive brings.  Thank you, Jesus, for being the greatest forgiver of all.  AMEN.